If you call an obstacle a “problem” or “a mess,” you will create a different emotional state within you than if you call the issue “an opportunity” or “a challenge that will propel you forward once overcome.” For example, if I thought I couldn’t write this post, I wouldn’t. But, aside from waking up on this beautiful Sunday morning with a mild hangover, I woke up with an inspiration to share some of my thoughts here with you. And I know I can do that only because I think I can. In the words of British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli, “You will never go higher than your thinking.”
Think kindly of yourself, and you will be kind to yourself
If you think something cannot occur in your life, then there is no way that you will take the action required to make that goal a reality. This kind of currency buys you nothing in terms of goal achievement. Your impossibility, your stinking-thinking, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your perceived limitations become the chains that keep you from the greatness you were meant to be. And where is self-leadership in that?
We’ve heard it a thousand times in a thousand different ways: your thoughts become you. Coaches say it. Motivators say it. Sages say it. Every action you take has been preceded by a thought. Your thoughts are the ancestors of your performance.
Often times I will work with clients with a specific goal that requires a specific approach to going about their pursuit. What amazes me the most is the language they use once I start laying out the roadmap for them to
And whether they think they “can,” or “cannot,” they are always right. In physical training we call this SAID principal (Specific Adaptation to Imposed Demands) which essentially states that you are what you train to be. The same concept applies to your mental and emotional state of being: you are what you think yourself to be.
We humans will never act in a way that’s bigger than our thoughts. This concept cascades through every realm of our existence. Think you can, and your actions will reflect that energy. Think you should, and you will. Think people are good, and you will do good things for good people. Think kindly of yourself, and you will be kind to yourself. This is a big idea that is so easy to neglect.
I will end this post with an invitation to Think Different (credit: Steve Jobs). I suggest you keep this invitation in a place you frequent throughout your day so it can serve you as a reminder:
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
And you don’t have to be religious to live this path of empowerment.